I don’t know why I ever dated you. I can’t believe how much of a jerk you and how I even put up with it for as long as I did. All I can say is I am happy I got out of it when I did and found the MAN I am with now since you are a damn boy. Grow up. There is no need to be rude. Were adults. Don’t need to take your anger out on me because your girlfriend is a bitch and your family hates her.
If you’ve cut a negative person from your life, whether they were abusive or just someone who wasn’t a positive influence on you, at NO POINT in your healing are you required to let that person BACK into your life.
Your healing should never be contingent on you bringing people who have harmed you back into your space. Your healing does not require you to give these people a second chance to harm you.
"Tell her I’m in Baton Rouge, Louisiana Sellin’ cars five days a week. Tell her I’m in Mobile, Alabama, gettin’ back on my feet. Tell her I’m happy and I’ve moved on, lookin’ better than you’ve ever seen; just don’t tell her that you saw me, drownin’ in this bottle, tryin’ to make her disappear. Tell her that I’m anywhere, anywhere but here."
So when people leave, I’ve learned the secret: let them. Because, most of the time, they have to.
Let them walk away and go places. Let them have adventures in the wild without you. Let them travel the world and explore life beyond a horizon that you exist in. And know, deep down, that heroes aren’t qualified by their capacity to stay but by their decision to return.— The Staying Philosophy (Everyday Isa)